Queasy Clichés

We steal something already borrowed, but which should be said clearly:

Douglas McEwan, whom I quoted here recently, posted this to Facebook and I'm sure he won't mind if I stick it up here, too …

We all love Gene Wilder, and we all loved Gilda Radner, but can we dial back on the "Gene and Gilda are reunited in Heaven" stuff, please? First off, no, they're not. They're dead. Secondly, it's an awfully queasy cliché.

And thirdly and most-importantly, it's disrespectful to his widow Karen, who nursed him through his final illness, and to whom he was married far longer than he was to Gilda. She's alive and grieving, and should be shown respect, not shunted aside because we all want to feel that Gilda was the Love of His Life.

And could you cliché-spouting scared-of-death types also cool it w/ the "R.I.P." stuff, as applied to anyone?
The dead are dead, damnit, they are not taking a well-deserved break!